Lets be real, we all fight. There is no relationship where there are no disagreements (except one's where there is no love between each other, or no care and if that works for you.. woohoo!) So why are we so wrapped up in trying to find that #relationshipgoals relationship?
Why are we so fast to judge, swipe left and thank you next? What happened to working on things, and sticking it out and growing mutually.. (If you are in an abusive relationship..get out now.) But if the relationship just seems rocky because you haven't seen eye to eye in a while, why not sit down, talk it out and hash things out?
This is where looking at the bigger picture really DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
When you find yourself arguing with your significant other, it is important to take a step back and remember the bigger picture. Recall the love you have for each other and the life you share together. Reflect on the good qualities of your relationship and the positive experiences you have had. Reminding yourself of the foundation of love and mutual respect can help create a mindset that is more conducive to resolving conflicts.
Once you have calmed down and gained some perspective, it is important to engage in open and honest communication. Choose a time when both of you are receptive and willing to listen. Avoid focusing solely on proving yourself right or making the other person wrong. Instead, strive to understand each other's viewpoints and feelings. Share your thoughts and concerns, and actively listen to your partner without interrupting or becoming defensive.
By approaching the conversation with empathy and a genuine desire to work things out, you can begin to bridge the gap between you. Remember, the goal is not about being right or wrong, but about finding a resolution that strengthens your relationship. Together, you can explore possible solutions, compromises, or changes that can help address the underlying issues causing the disagreement.
It's important to recognize that fights are an opportunity for growth and improvement, both individually and as a couple. By acknowledging the challenges and working through them together, you can deepen your understanding of each other and strengthen the bond you share. It may take time and effort, but by focusing on the love and respect you have for one another, you can overcome conflicts and emerge with a stronger, more harmonious relationship.
The best way to remove that defensive mindset and become more collaborative is reminding yourself, you both want the same thing, and that is to stay together. So if you feel that saying that aloud is the best thing to do before communicating try it out, see the difference in each other, your anger will puff away and what will stay is the willingness to figure things out and the willingness to comfort each other from being hurt.
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Say out loud that you both want to stay together before discussions or conflicts.
Shift your perspective from enemies to allies working towards a common purpose.
Be more empathetic by understanding each other's emotional state during conflicts.
Practice active listening, allowing your partner to express themselves without interruption.
Focus on finding solutions together, rather than assigning blame.
Provide comfort and support to each other.
Remind yourselves of the shared desire to stay together to foster collaboration and effective communication and take a deep breathe.
By following these bullet points, you can create a relationship that is #relationshipgoals